Homeschoolers Work At Home Virtually

Well, this is my second trip through the book, and to be honest, I was thinking about not reviewing the book again.  Life’s gotten really crazy and that just seemed to be just one more thing that has to get done.  And now I’m glad that I didn’t listen to myself.  The lack of follow through would indicate that my Desire to attain my rightful place in the world is weak and subject to deflection whenever life gets in the way.  The lack of persistence would spell my doom as I allowed myself to be sidetracked by everyone else’s drama and problems to once again squeeze out what I’m trying to attain.  That would indicate that I had a lack of a Definite Purpose and was just a leaf being blown from one great idea to another.  And it would mean that I am willing to throw away my future riches for a few coins today.

And so, I am here and ready to review what I think I know and learn more about what I need to know to make my dreams come to fruition. The thoughts I allow to enter my mind and that I freely entertain are the ones that will either launch me to success or drag me down into the pit.  I want to be a free-flying spirit not one mired in “would have”, “could of” and “should of” regrets.  I no longer want to be trapped in a box of my own making.  I want to achieve the big goals and stop fixating on the small gains that I get through an employee type mentality. 

Edwin C. Barnes demonstrated that it is our thoughts that liberate us from the bondage of poverty.  He also showed a perseverance to attain his goal even if the road isn’t a straight-forward path.  My thoughts need to be focused on gathering e-book downloads and gaining a professional skill set for my chosen profession and let the chaff fall where it may. I won’t leave my gold mine buried under three feet of other people’s minutiae any longer.

I will think and grow rich, even if it kills me. 

Well, if I ever had a doubt in my mind that I should continue doing the mental cleanse, Chapter 2 totally dispelled my self-delusion. I remembered the stories of Mr. Barnes, Mr. Fields and Mr. Ford without the loss of the details involved. I definitely remember the facts about their successes and struggles. What I forgot to remember (and since this is the entire point of reading the chapter) were the six steps to MY roadmap to success. Now isn’t that just crazy?

So, for the entire world to see (and remind me!), I am outlining the six points that are the key to my family’s success.

1. I want to generate $120,000 each year
2. I intend to help people to achieve their goals through education and to provide assistance
3. I want to the $120,000 by February 2009
4. I need to write a daily To Do List and working out a schedule that will allow me to work my business on a consistent basis. I cannot afford to allow other pressures to stop me from doing taking at least one step a day towards financial independence.
5. I will make at least one YouTube video per week advertising my skills, knowledge and experiences as a network marketer. I will add at least one lens to my Squidoo page. I will add one blog per week to Blogger. I will continue to network with the homeschooling community to make contacts and create a customer base. These actions will create the $120,000/yr that will in turn allow me to help other Stay-At-Home-Moms (SAHMs) to continue to make their family their first priority. This will give me the time to educate and live the lifestyle that I know we deserve.
6. I will read the statement that I just composed at least two times a day so that I can train my subconscious mind to accept my newest instructions and get to work.

And I am also going to make a nice PowerPoint slide of the following poem for my focus wall to help me to remember that my goal is bigger than a paycheck – it’s a vision for a lifestyle.

“I bargained with Life for a penny,

And Life would pay no more,

However I begged at evening

When I counted my scanty store.

“For Life is just an employer,

He gives you what you ask,

But once you have set the wages,

Why, you must bear the task.

“I worked for a menial’s hire,

Only to learn, dismayed,

That any wage I had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.”

Here’s an introduction to my favorite “color” subjects — Jade, Alaya, Michael. Here’s a brief introduction to the crew:

Jade – 8 years old, Blue
Alaya – 5 years old, Yellow
Michael, 1 year old, Red

Quick Personality Traits Chart
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Blue: Tigger
Yellow: Piglet
Red: Scrooge McDuck
Green: Rabbit (from Winnie-the-Pooh)

Enjoy the video at http://www.youtube.com/v/720TpAkafo0!

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A beautiful reminder of the importance of acknowledging those important people in our lives.

This is my favorite chapter. This was also the first chapter that I read when I started this process of mentally cleansing myself. It made me examine myself and my motivations towards life in general, and success in particular. I have spent the rest of my mental cleanse working on these fears and although I haven’t completely rid myself of them, I have a better handle on my thinking process and can divert myself away from totally succumbing to these fears.

The one fear that I am trying to get a handle on is the loss of love. My focus for a long time has been to have a family and now that I do I want to do the best things for them. One of those things that I must do is to generate the income necessary to provide the lifestyle that I think will help them to be well-rounded and productive people. Knowing all of this, it would seem to be a simple step to just go on with doing the business, attending conferences and the like. But I feel myself dragging my feet when the opportunity arrives. A part of me is afraid of being one of those workaholic parents who think that things can replace the companionship that every person needs. I am afraid that my children will look back on their young lives and think that they weren’t loved and in turn shut me out.

The logical part of me realizes that if I am aware of the pitfalls of growing a business to the exclusiveness of everything else that I wouldn’t become one of those people, but I am still afraid. Maybe it’s not so much because the children might reject me, as much as it is the whole idea of going to a convention. Being raised as a JW, we had to go to conventions at least 3 times a year. Two day, three day, four days and even seven day conventions are still fresh in my mind. And regardless of all of the sitting, listening and learning that went on during those times when I needed to free myself from a bad marriage, all of the people who preached truth and love turned their backs on me. And not just because they personally disagreed with my decision, but because they were told to by the book publishing ruling body who didn’t know me or care about me.

All of the people that I grew up with, shared secrets with and had fun with are gone. There is only one person from the organization that keeps in touch with me and that is only done sporadically. Everyone else from birth until I was thirty years old is gone. My children will never play with their children. My kids won’t know the stories (unless I tell them) about silly things that I did growing up. And it’s not because of anything more than the caprice of an organization that I used to fantasize about blowing up. Although I am better than I was when it happened, I guess I’m not totally healed from the experience.

As I write this, I realize that I have allowed my children to act as a shield against the rejection that might happen if I decided to participate fully by going to conventions or any other type of large organization. If they could come, I’d probably feel safer. Why? The only thing that I can come up with is that they are proof that I am loveable, that I am indispensable to people. They can’t be taken away from me on a whim or judgment from a kangaroo court. And now, realizing this, I know what I have to work on. I need to realize that the people I associate with are chosen by me for no other reason than that we are compatible. We’re not together because we’re “supposed” to be. We’re together because we choose to be and that means that it’s an even playing field, unlike my experience with The Society.

And I just realized another thing. This “wonderful” group would have denied me my children by forcing me to stay with a man I neither loved nor was healthy for my mental health. One elder (my brother-in-law) at the time even told me that if I were his wife I’d have to choose between him and my child from an adulterous relationship. Perhaps that is why I’m so fiercely protective over my relationship with my children. I’ll have to think about that more.

Now, just in case my husband is wondering where he fits into all of this, I know that he and I will be together until we fall asleep in death. He serves as my protector and I know that he will never leave me, regardless of what others may say. He’s the first person that I learned to trust after dealing with the Witness Protection Program (his nickname for the Borg) and my best friend.

Fear is a powerful emotion and one that will stop you from accomplishing your dreams if you don’t stare it down once you’ve identified it. Next year’s convention will have two new VIPs attending the dinner (and probably a babysitter at the hotel taking care of the kids J). Well Michael, you’re the one that always tells us to take baby steps. LOL!

Michael, thank you for taking the time to help us all save ourselves from the trash that has collected in our minds.

With much gratitude,

Cheryl Henderson-Khalid

Napoleon Hill spends this chapter discussing the sixth sense. This is our natural ability to create hunches, inspirations or flashes of insight. We all have them, but depending on our religious and cultural upbringing, may have been taught that this ability is a form of evil that should be shunned. I was brought up in one of those religions, but the one thing that always puzzled me as a child was why should I be considered evil just because I sometimes knew things that were about to happen ahead of time. I wasn’t seeking the occult or doing things that were bad, so what was the big deal? I learned, however, that this is a big deal to many people, so I learned very early to keep my insights to myself and only shared them with my niece, Alisa, and my father.

Many times this sixth sense has helped me out of jams that I would otherwise not have been able to escape a couple of situations unscathed. We have to acknowledge that there are things that we don’t understand, but not understanding doesn’t make it any less of a fact. The sixth sense is very powerful, but it cannot operate in a vacuum. It receives information through our brain based upon our observations and emotions regarding what we are seeing. We have to train our sixth sense, the same way that we train our other muscles. Yes, the majority of the population is gifted with sight, however how many people have true powers of observation. The same is true with our sixth sense. We all possess it to one degree or another, but if we don’t make a conscious effort to train it so that it is available when we need it.

This chapter highlighted to me the need to assemble my own mental team of counselors. I think that I have already found one in the person of Napoleon Hill. I really admire his tenacity and dedication to helping others to understand that the power to succeed is and has always been within their hands, if they only reached out and grabbed it. Reading books about financial success is very new genre for me, so I am sure that I will discover more leaders to add to the group. I’m meeting many of these leaders right now in our mentoring group and in my business. I am also going to spend more time reading about people that I admire and learning how they accomplished the things that they did. I look forward to seeing what else my sixth sense can come up with after it has been properly nourished and exercised.

Our brains are amazing. It controls our every movement, contains our every thought and has a sub-system called the subconscious, that works while we sleep. Our brain also acts as a receiver for our senses – it records everything that we see, touch, hear, feel or smell. And it takes these sensations and files them away for later use. How many times has a stray scent reminded us of a person or an event in our lives? And the higher the emotional content of these memories, the easier it is to recall the event, and sometimes even re-live it.

Emotion is one of the biggest factors in our lives. Negative emotions (i.e., bad thoughts, low self-esteem, or traumatic occurrences in our lives) will stop us from achieving, or even aspiring to the level of excellence that we all have within us. Being around negative people and situations drag us down and will swallow us up if we don’t actively work at getting away from them. On the other hand, positive emotions will stir us to reach towards the stars and to believe in ourselves and our abilities. But our emotions do more than that. They actually seek out and capture the dominant emotion of our lives. So, if we are in a negative state of mind, our brain will actually attract the negative thoughts of others and send it to our subconscious mind, which as we’ve learned will then turn it into reality. But, mixing emotion and positive thoughts will bring us more positive thoughts and results in our lives.

It’s really important to keep our receptors tuned into the positive thoughts of the universe. Many times over the course of my life, my niece, has admonished me to stay away from certain people. I never really appreciated what she was saying until I actually did stay away from them. Some of these people are in my immediate biological family, so it was hard for me to practice what she suggested, but when I did wonderful things began to happen in my life. These toxic people were saturating me with negative thoughts and images. I, however, didn’t think that I was paying any attention to what they said to me, but my subconscious was definitely listening. I suffered from many stress-related illnesses when I was in daily contact with these folks. However, I didn’t make the correlation between those I was associating with and my health situation. Once I got away from them, I was no longer sick. I have mitral valve prolapsed, which is a minor heart (really valve) problem, but when I was around the “Witness Protection” people I was very symptomatic and sometimes had difficulty functioning. I was taking Zantac for ulcers and a whole host of other things. And I was in my early 20s! And the minute I made up my mind to “escape”, not a whimper from the heart valve, I can eat whatever I like without stomach pains and the list goes on and on.

People, especially those in the Western world, are very reluctant to acknowledge that there are things we don’t understand about the universe at large. The brain has been scanned, mapped and examined and one thing remains true – regardless of what we learn about this marvelous organ, there’s still so much more that we don’t understand. And since we use such a small portion of our brain in our lifetime, we should not be surprised that for those sensitive few, the brain allows them to do marvelous things such as telepathy or clairvoyance. I think we are so skeptical because many of us have been raised to believe that anything that smacks of supernatural origins is demonic or evil. And because of this prejudice, we limit ourselves from fully experiencing what God has programmed within us. When people hear the word clairvoyance, they think of people with crystal balls. I think clairvoyance is our mind’s early warning system. How many times have people stated that they were on their way someplace and something from within told them to change their route or stay at home, and later they find out that there was a fire or some other problem at their destination? Why have there been instances of twins knowing when their other half has been hurt or is in trouble? Their brains are “tuned” into whatever frequency there is that gives us a heads up about situations.

The brain is an awe-inspiring organ. It should never be taken for granted, misused or abused by negativity or negative people. We each need to feed our brains on positive information and discuss things that are upbuilding and thought-provoking. As you, Michael, have said in the past, successful people don’t waste time talking about people. They spend their time discussing ideas. Thanks to Mr. Hill for giving me so many ideas to think about. J